It's been on my refrigerator since my junior year at Marquette. I found it in the Target dollar section. It seemed to be the perfect mantra for any young woman on the search for Mr. Right. Of course I hadn't found him yet. That didn't keep me from getting involved with a few frogs though.
My jaw is dropped and my mind is attempting to wrap itself around what's on my tv right now-- a special on purity balls on TLC.
Purity = fabulous. Hands down. Of course you want to be pure, I mean hello, isn't it in the Bible or something?
That's not what's got me thinking I may have downed too many glasses of wine this evening and am not hearing right. It's the whole notion of dating for these young girls. As in non-existent. No first kiss until wedding day. No romantic dinners for two. No hand holding. No boyfriends. Just a husband.
Whoa.
I may gripe about my past boyfriends and non-relationship relationships in life, but I am incredibly grateful to these men that have shaped my life, for the love and joy that they have brought into it, and for the heartbreak as well. They've made me stronger. Made me happier. They've shown me what it is that I want in life and inspired me as well. Seth and I have come to a greater appreciation of each other because of what we've experienced in our relationships in the past. I have nothing but thanks for my exes. It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. No matter how much it hurts.
Not for these girls though. And I can't even begin to imagine that.
The most offending part of it all is their accusation that just because you date a couple of guys growing up, you have a horrible relationship with your father. I love my father. We have a wonderful relationship. He is my first Prince Charming and one of my best friends, always have, and always will be. Just because I've had a few boyfriends in my 23 years of life isn't reason to think my father and I have a flawed relationship. On the contrary.
For the past 23 years I've been in search of someone as wonderful as my dad. In search of a relationship just as wonderful.
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